When it comes to relationships it takes only a few brief words to say and do the exact wrong thing.
“What did I do wrong now?”
Variations: “Why are you always attacking me?” “Surprise, surprise, you’re angry at me again.” “Look at what I have to put up with.” “Poor, poor me.”
True Meaning: “I don’t actually care why you’re upset with me, what I can do to make you feel better or how I can learn from this experience so I don’t hurt you again. I’m just annoyed that I have to deal with it.”
“You wouldn’t understand.”
Variations: “You just don’t get it.” “You don’t listen.” “If you have to ask then forget it.” “God, you’re an idiot.”
True Meaning: “Maybe I don’t know how to articulate my feelings. Or maybe I know you actually won’t understand because your head is so far up your butt that you’re looking out your own mouth. Either way, we’re not getting past this any time soon.”
“I thought you were different than that.”
Variations: “You’re just like my ex.” “You’re just like every other guy/girl.” “You are such a disappointment.” “Looks like I settled yet again.”
True Meaning: “You behaved just like you always do and did exactly what I expected you to do but now I just can’t deal with you being you anymore.”
“I need to be alone now.”
Variations: “Get out of my sight.” “I can’t stand looking at you right now.” “I don’t even want to know you even exist.” “GET THE HELL OUT!”
True Meaning: “This relationship will probably work a lot better if you weren’t a part of it.”
“Oh, like you don’t know.”
Variations: “Seriously?!” “Honestly?!” “Really?!?” “Are you f****** me?!”
True Meaning: “I’m not going to say what you did wrong. I’m going to have you admit what you did wrong and then attack you for doing something you just admitted was wrong but only because I got you to admit it in the first place.”
“Why are you still talking?”
Variations: “Just shut up.” “Why won’t you shut up?” “SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP!!!”
True Meaning: “Nothing you can say could have any value to me, could help our problem in any way or could make me look at you with any other expression than overwhelming nausea.”
“Your friend was hitting on me all night.”
Variations: “Your friend is cute.” “They are a lot of people out there who would be happy to date me.” “You won’t know what you had until it’s too late.”
True Meaning: “I’m an a**hole who is going to play you off your friends so that you become insecure and jealous and let me get away with murder because I want you to think you can lose me just like that.”
“Nothing.”
Variations: “Whatever.” “Never mind.” Dead silence. The middle finger.
True Meaning: “Discussing it won’t help, communication is pointless and frankly I am so unbelievably angry right now that if I open my mouth the sound will cause angels to drop dead.”
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